"To get what you want, you have to deserve what you want. The world is not yet a crazy enough place to reward a whole bunch of undeserving people." ― Charles T. Munger
If you're not investing and improving on yourself everyday, you will not be successful. This doesn't mean putting in 15hrs a day of continuous studying, but it does mean learning at least one thing before you go to bed for the rest of your life. At the end, it adds up.
Most of these determinants are based on heuristic patterns, our choices.
Do I eat breakfast this morning? Yes or No. Yes, I'll eat breakfast.
Do I eat something healthy for breakfast? Yes or No. Yes, I'll have some lean proteins and healthy fats.
Do I workout after breakfast? Yes or No. Yes.
Do I do cardio? Do I lift weights?
As you can see, our life is full of choices. We can easily see our choices with this type of branching in all aspects of our life.
When it comes to money, Warren Buffett has made better choices than you or me. When it comes to bodybuilding, Arnold Schwarzenegger has made better choices than you or me. Even that person you know who has married the love of their life and living happily ever married for 50+ yrs, has made better choices when it comes to love than you or me.
What is the difference?
What is the secret?
The secret is simple, it's our choices.
If we compare our choices side by side, most of us weren't doing the things that every successful person took the time to do.
Diving a bit deeper into the subject, there is something that is standing out. There is this myth that Freedom always equals Happiness. On the contrary, maybe this freedom of choice is overwhelming us into doing the wrong things in life.
Our brains aren't evolved to handle such an insane amount of choice that our current world presents.
Our ancestral mind were built to handle 150 friends/family/acquaintance relationships. Take a look around your city and see how many people there are.
If you aren't careful, and you can make a choice of letting the wrong person into your life in which you're happiness is at risk due an over cognitive loading.
We are bombarded with the freedom of choice.
Look at online dating, you can communicate with thousands of people. Even in career, it wasn't too long ago where we didn't necessarily have to make a choice. We usually followed in the footsteps of our parents.
In my experience, there are only a few things in life that truly make us happy. You can picture it as a small sphere that fits in the palm of your hand. Now what most of us do is try to load a full size room of stuff into that small sphere.
The end result, we chase too many options than your mind can possibly differentiate between whether it's a good or bad decision according the life we set out to live.